The Uninvited Inside Us

In IFS, all your parts have good intentions for you. Even the extreme parts believe they are doing what they do to protect you and keep you safe. To highlight this, Dick Schwartz wrote a book called “No Bad Parts.” And then, occasionally, inexplicably, a part emerges that does not have your best intentions at heart. An entity that is not even a part of your family of parts. These parts can disrupt our sense of self, our well-being, and our ability to feel safe. We call these Unattached Burdens.

Unattached burdens, also known as legacy burdens, are deep-seated negative energies or beliefs that do not belong to a specific part of your psyche but are instead absorbed from external sources, sometimes across generations. These burdens can manifest as persistent feelings of fear, terror, danger or shame that seem to have no clear origin, leading to distressing emotional patterns and blocking your personal growth.

A Connection to Spirit Possession?

In many cultures and spiritual traditions, the experience of carrying unattached burdens closely parallels the concept of spirit possession. These are seen as external entities or energies that infiltrate a person's mind and influence their thoughts and behaviors. In the context of IFS, unattached burdens can be understood as psychological "spirits" that take residence in our internal system, disrupting our sense of self and well-being. Working with these burdens involves acknowledging their presence, understanding their origins, and gently guiding them out of your system.

While I do not claim Unattached Burdens are actual spirits that come into us from elsewhere, it's worth noticing the parallels with stories of possession across the span of human history.

One of the pioneers in this work is Bob Falconer. He has spent decades studying Unattached Burdens from an IFS lens. You can find more about IFS and UB's with Bob here: https://robertfalconer.us/

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How I Can Help

Identify the Burden

Through guided self-inquiry, we will uncover the source of these burdens and understand how they have been influencing your life.

Engage with Compassion

We will work with your inner parts to ensure that your core Self—a place of calm, clarity, and confidence—leads the healing process.

Release and Heal

With your Self in the lead, we'll gently detach these burdens, allowing you to reclaim your emotional freedom and inner peace.

Why This Matters

Unattached burdens can act as invisible chains, holding you back from realizing your full potential. By addressing and releasing these burdens, you can experience:

Emotional Freedom

Break free from the negative cycles that have been unknowingly influencing your life.

Deeper Self-Understanding

Gain insights into your emotional and spiritual heritage, leading to profound personal growth.

Restored Inner Balance

Return to a state of harmony within yourself, free from the weight of external influences.

Is This Right for You?

This work is especially beneficial if you:

Experience persistent emotional challenges that don’t seem to have a clear cause.
Feel blocked in your personal or spiritual growth, despite trying other therapeutic approaches.
Are open to exploring deep, transformative healing that encompasses both psychological and spiritual dimensions.

Let's Work Together

If you’re ready to explore and release these hidden burdens, I’m here to support you on this profound journey of healing. Contact me today to schedule a session or to learn more about how this work can help you find lasting peace and fulfillment.

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